This is National Kiss-and-Make-up Day.

The expression, “kiss and make up,” usually means that two people who have been arguing have made peace with each other. The argument is over. They’re friends again.

As a dispute or conflict is resolved, the two people don’t actually have to kiss, although that often happens with a husband and wife. Often the two will shake hands, pat each other on the back, hug, or just say, “Hey, that’s OK.” The important thing is that they both mean it when they admit their wrongs and ask for forgiveness.

As you know, people can pretend to feel bad about something they’ve done or said. They may even state, “I’m sorry for doing that” when they really mean, “I’m sorry I got caught.” Some people are so phony that they can smile and be all friendly when inside they are very angry and upset. They may even say, “Don’t worry about it. It’s OK. Let’s get together,” but they’re really thinking, “I never want to see you again!”

Several times over the past few months we’ve discussed honesty. Today’s topic is another way to be honest—in our relationships. When we say something to someone, especially when we “kiss and make up,” we need to be sincere. Otherwise we shouldn’t say it. We shouldn’t pretend to be sorry when we’re not. Instead, we should work to resolve the conflict so we really can heal the relationship.

Today’s verse talks about “genuine affection.” Notice the emphasis on “genuine”—this means being a true friend, not a phony one.

True friends don’t always agree or get along—conflicts arise in any relationship. But true friends say what they mean and mean what they say to each other. They’re honest with each other, not phony.

So look for sincere people to be your friends. And be a genuine friend to them.

Love each other with genuine affection, and take delight in honoring each other (Romans 12:10).

To Do

Jot a quick note to a good friend, expressing your sincere appreciation for the friendship. Then mail it.

Also on this day . . .

This is National Children’s Day.

1530—Ivan the Terrible, the first tsar of Russia, was born.

From Betsy Schmitt and Dave Veerman, 365 Trivia Twist Devotions: An Almanac of Fun Facts and Spiritual Truth for Every Day of the Year (Cincinnati: Standard, 2005).